Do you have FOBO? Why ‘Fear of a Better Option’ could be the reason you can’t find happiness
The unlimited choice in dating apps has left us unable to find a relationship due to Fear of a Better Option. Here’s how to commit again.
Sex
‘I thought becoming a mum meant my sex life was over — then I learned what was really getting in the way’
Is becoming a mother incompatible with having a good sex life? We spoke to Sarah Forbes, author of Mama Sex: How a Perfect Storm Created a Revolution, about the challenges mothers face when it comes to keeping intimacy alive. Words: Amy Mica Marsden. Images: Shutterstock It’s a refrain heard time and time again throughout history: […]
It’s not about watching porn or being unfaithful: the truth about sex addiction
Many people labelled “sex addicts” are actually dealing with stress, shame, or compulsive patterns — not sex addiction. Here’s how to tell when sexual behaviour becomes a problem and what to do about it. For many people, sex is one of the most confusing parts of life. Society tells men in particular to be sexual, […]
Is your sex life dwindling? How to deal with a difference in libido
Not tonight, darling! A difference in libido is a reality of many relationships and can cause great conflict. Grace Abelola, who has always wanted less sex than her husband, went in search of a solution
Why men shut down their emotions — and how their relationships pay the price
Emotional suppression in men often shows up as stress, irritability and distance — reshaping connection long before anyone even realises When emotions aren’t recognised, they don’t disappear. They leak. Unprocessed stress and emotional overload quietly spill into relationships, shaping their tone, closeness and communication — and not for the better. You might think you’re being […]
‘I’m invisible in my relationship’: expert advice on how to reconnect as a couple after having kids
A new baby strains even strong relationships, but understanding hidden pressures can future-proof your bond in a tough season
‘I keep repeating the same mistakes!’ What you need vs what you want, and why it matters
Chemistry might spark attraction, but lasting relationships are built on compatibility. Understanding the difference can change who you choose — and why At the start of almost every relationship, desire takes the lead. We’re drawn to the spark, the excitement, that funny feeling you get in the pit of your stomach (or elsewhere!), the unmistakeable […]
I thought fighting was the problem – then a relationship coach explained it was what happens next that really matters
Closeness isn’t defined by avoiding falling out — but by what happens when we stop fighting and start repairing I remember when I first met my husband. Back then, our reactions when we had a fight were wildly different. I was all fireworks and slammed doors, raised voices and tears. He wanted to calm everything […]
‘I felt love draining quietly away’: why emotional safety is the missing link between desire and lasting intimacy
A psychotherapist explains how the nervous system shapes trust and connection – and why emotional safety is key to maintaining intimacy One of my friends recently shocked our WhatsApp group with the news that she was getting a divorce. They’d been married 20 years, two lovely kids, nice house. It all looked perfect in the […]
Learning this saved my relationship — but most couples never try it
Curiosity is one of the strongest predictors of emotional connection — yet in many long-term relationships it’s often the first thing to disappear Here, relationship expert Karen Thom explores why often it’s what you don’t say that quietly dismantles emotional intimacy. All too often, curiosity quietly disappears from long-term relationships — and missed moments, unasked […]
