‘I’m invisible in my relationship’: expert advice on how to reconnect as a couple after having kids
A new baby strains even strong relationships, but understanding hidden pressures can future-proof your bond in a tough season
Relationships
Relationships can be difficult to navigate, whether its romantic, platonic, friendship or professional ties – we’ve got expert advice & experiences to help.
‘Why do I keep choosing the wrong people?’ What you want vs what you need in love
Chemistry might spark attraction, but lasting relationships are built on compatibility. Understanding the difference can change who you choose — and why At the start of almost every relationship, desire takes the lead. We’re drawn to the spark, the excitement, that funny feeling you get in the pit of your stomach (or elsewhere!), the unmistakeable […]
I thought fighting was the problem – then a relationship coach explained it was what happens next that really matters
Closeness isn’t defined by avoiding falling out — but by what happens when we stop fighting and start repairing I remember when I first met my husband. Back then, our reactions when we had a fight were wildly different. I was all fireworks and slammed doors, raised voices and tears. He wanted to calm everything […]
‘I felt love draining quietly away’: why emotional safety is the missing link between desire and lasting intimacy
A psychotherapist explains how the nervous system shapes trust and connection – and why emotional safety is key to maintaining intimacy One of my friends recently shocked our WhatsApp group with the news that she was getting a divorce. They’d been married 20 years, two lovely kids, nice house. It all looked perfect in the […]
Learning this saved my relationship — but most couples never try it
Curiosity is one of the strongest predictors of emotional connection — yet in many long-term relationships it’s often the first thing to disappear Here, relationship expert Karen Thom explores why often it’s what you don’t say that quietly dismantles emotional intimacy. All too often, curiosity quietly disappears from long-term relationships — and missed moments, unasked […]
‘I can’t tell her how I feel’: It’s not your fault if you struggle to express emotions
Often we aren’t emotionally disconnected because we lack depth. We feel unseen because no one ever taught us how to put our inner world into words. If you struggle to express emotions you’re not alone — and you’re not emotionally deficient. As men, frequently we grow up learning that our value lies in what we […]
‘It was just a joke, don’t you have a sense of humour?’ How to spot relationship red flags
Subtle gaslighting, ‘jokes’ that hurt, constantly walking on eggshells: Relationship red flags often appear quietly — until your confidence is gone for good An old boyfriend of mine had one red flag phrase he repeated constantly: ‘I’m only kidding — it was just a joke! Don’t you have a sense of humour?’ He usually said […]
The Beckham siblings have had a public falling out – here’s why siblings fall out and how to heal the rifts
After a dramatic fall out with her sister, Sophia Smith went in search of a solution to understand and overcome sibling estrangement…
How to talk to your kids about Santa (and other awkward Christmas conversations)
Few times of year throw up as many tricky topics as Christmas, from whether you-know-who is real to why there’s no PS5 under the tree. Heidi Scrimgeour, a mother of three, discovers how to tackle some challenging questions
Dr Tara Swart: ‘The world needs spirituality right now’
Science, spirituality and manifestation could co-exist better than you might think. We spoke to Dr Tara Swart about life, death, and being open-minded in the face of tragedy.
