1. A radiant mind is a happy mind.
Happiness is a feeling, and feelings are created by thoughts. You have total control of how you feel by choosing the right thoughts – it's about choosing thoughts that create 'happy', if you like. Look for the positive, look for evidence to prove the positive, and challenge your mind. Your thoughts are the key to creating happiness.
2. Treat yourself the way you treat the people you love
When creating a radiant mind, self-care is super important. When you love others you treat them well and with respect. Radiance glows when you give. Yet are you giving to you? When you treat yourself with respect this helps to create wonderful positive feelings created from your radiant mind. You have to believe and act on the belief that YOU ARE WORTH IT. A radiant mind means partaking in activities that nourish your soul. Whether it’s an early night, a great movie, a hot bath, lovely candles or a good book, you owe it to yourself to incorporate these things into your life. Doing the things you love breeds happiness and radiance. It’s a conscious way of telling yourself that you are taking care of yourself. Doing the things you really love to do is you being kind to you. Schedule it, organize it and do it. You will thank yourself for it – trust me.
3. Exercise your mind and your body!
Challenging your thoughts is a great way to exercise your mind daily. Exercise itself helps with this. It releases endorphins and makes you feel great. In other words start to move your body and create a really radiant mind. When it comes to exercise, do something you love to do. There is no use going on a treadmill if you hate it, as it will just slip away from your daily life. Instead try new things and go for exercise that makes you feel great. There are so many different types of exercise from zumba to yoga. Find the time to make this happen and the radiance will grow.
4. Stop judging yourself
Speaking to yourself in a negative way is simply mean. We are all learning and growing, and no one gets it right all the time, and neither do they have a perfect life. When you give up on beating yourself up that’s when the real love comes in and the radiance flows. If you wouldn’t speak to someone you love the way you speak to yourself then it’s time to lock that stuff down and change your tune. Think of a baby learning to walk. It falls down a lot and it simply gets back up again, smiling, and gives it another go. It doesn’t berate itself. The tip here is this – when you judge yourself, you miss the lesson.
5. Learn to say no
Saying ‘no’ does not make you unlikeable or mean. It doesn’t make you a bad person; it makes you clever. If you really want to love you, you will take care of you and not people-please. A radiant mind is a strong mind. Loving yourself means respecting yourself and that means that you are your priority. You don’t ever have to do anything, it’s always a choice. And in that respect you can choose to say no. Give yourself some self-respect and time, and you will be amazed at how things change, how much more time you have and how great your ‘self’ will feel when you start to put you first.
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