Davina McCall — ‘I just get happier and happier the older I become’

Davina McCall on regaining confidence, what wellbeing means to her, and one thing she would tell her younger self.

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She’s not many people’s idea of a wallflower or a shrinking violet, but even the bubbly, outgoing Davina McCall has suffered from a crisis of confidence at times.

’In midlife, when I became perimenopausal, I felt like I’d become invisible. Society didn’t see me,’ she shares.

‘I felt like I’d become unattractive to men because I could no longer bear children. I had thought, who am I? What is my use? I wanted to disappear. However, as I’ve got older, I’ve decided I don’t want to do or think like that anymore.’

The TV star is far from in the minority feeling a confidence dip. According to a 2024 Arden University confidence index, 21% of women severely lack confidence, compared to only 15% of men. The survey found that 27% of women compare themselves to someone else on a daily basis.

With pressures coming from all sides, and many women finding the world of social media particularly damaging, McCall says avoiding the comparison trap is all about finding your tribe online.

“I would recommend finding women you see as style icons and try to replicate that. I love women who wear brightly coloured clothes and I met one called Karen [Arthur] who’s got an account called Menopause Whilst Black. I love the way she dresses. It’s really colourful and it’s not overtly sexy in any way but it’s still saying ‘look at me’.

“Seeing these women online made me realised I just need to get a bit more colour in my wardrobe and be less embarrassed about being visible. It can even be something as basic as wearing a coloured lipstick, or a nice bright coat. All of these things will add to your confidence when you look in the mirror.”

It’s an idea she has embraced throughout her life, and she now focuses on how she feels instead of how she looks — especially after she needed a six-hour operation to remove a benign brain tumour in November.

The former Big Brother host, My Mum, Your Dad presenter and The Masked Singer judge, found out she had a 14mm colloid cyst after getting a health scan last year.

Now McCall says that since the treatment she’s had to go back to square one with her fitness.

“After my operation I have had to start from the beginning and go back to couch to 5K, which has been humbling but I’ve really enjoyed it.”

But over her years in the spotlight, her relationship with what it means to be healthy has completely shifted.

“When I was in my 20s and early 30s, wellbeing was more about an aesthetic,” says 57-year-old. “Back then, I was focused on how to get ‘beach body ready’ and I used to yo-yo a lot, up and down. I also loved food, but all the wrong foods.

True wellbeing “is about being able to run after your kids and not get out of breath”, says the mum of three. “It’s about being able to take part in everything that they do and not be afraid that you’re not going to be able to do it or you’re going to injure yourself.”

McCall says she started on her fitness journey after having her second child, Tilly. “When I got pregnant, my entire body got pregnant – my feet got pregnant, my hands got it. You know how some girls look like they’ve just put a football up their top? I was not that person!

“I ballooned with my first baby [Holly], but when it happened again with my second, I thought, ‘how am I going to get rid of this?’

“It took me a year the first time around, and it took me a year the second, but I did it really sensibly the second time around – I was really careful. I looked after my joints, I made sure I didn’t push myself too hard, I just steadily got better, fitter and fitter. And then I realised actually, do you know what? Fitness isn’t about the aesthetic.

“Fitness and wellbeing for me now is looking after myself to make sure I feel young, not just look it.”

Now she likes to keep it simple, describing a brisk walk as one of the best practices. “I walk my dog like I’m late for a meeting, so I don’t amble about on my phone or do things that are going to distract me. I walk with purpose and do that twice a day – 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the evening. Your body is going to thank you so much and your mental health will also benefit from it so much.

“I also have my own fitness platform – Own Your Goals Davina – and three or four times a week, I do my half-hour workouts. I’ll also walk to places rather than the car and they are all just simple ways to become more active.”

McCall says if she could, she would tell her younger self to get into fitness earlier, rather than waiting until she was in her 30s. But she has an even more important message for her.

“The main thing I would tell her is that she is going to have lived the greatest life ever. I’m enjoying my life so much and I always had thought getting older was terrible.

“But I just get happier and happier the older I become. I might not have the nice tight skin that everybody else has, but inside my heart and my head, I’m content.”

Davina McCall has partnered with Ancient + Brave and its product True Collagen, on a mission to encourage positive ageing.