Unleash your feminine power

Have you been repressing your feminine energy? What if you could see your femininity as a superpower, the font of your creativity, health, power and sexuality? Here, Lauren Barber offers some powerful and liberating exercises, to help you reconnect with your feminine power...


Unleash your feminine power

For years, Lauren Barber repressed her feminine energy – now she sees it as a superpower, the font of her creativity, health, power and sexuality. She offers some powerful and liberating exercises, so you can reconnect with your feminine energy and become the goddess you are…

Apart from a few years during my late teens, I have spent my whole life believing I was unsexy. I wasn’t elegant or poised – I was messy and chaotic. As I strived for success in a business I created, I shut off my emotions to appear strong. I was fiercely independent and the fact that I was a woman didn’t even cross my mind. The world told me I needed to switch off my femininity and switch on a linear and consistent outer shell. When I turned 30, after punishing my body in the gym and restricting my food intake in a bid to achieve the ‘perfect’ body, I was anxious, exhausted, without a menstrual cycle, in a relationship that was falling apart and with a damaged disc in my back. I was so disconnected from myself that I pushed through workouts in agonising pain.

Emotionally, I was empty; depleted of life force, sexual and creative energy – the things that I now see as innate superpowers. There was a void, something missing, but I couldn’t work out what it was. I ventured into what I call a journey of remembering. I used practices such as womb yoga, a deeply feminine form that is all about working with the female anatomy and energy, listening to my body’s wisdom and intuition and understanding my sexual energy as more than about sex but as a font of creativity. I began to connect deeply with my body in a nourishing and gentle way that felt both alien and familiar at the same time. It was like an ‘unlearning’ – as if something within me remembered, and had lived this instinctive way before, but had forgotten it. I felt my spark return. I rediscovered an inner confidence and was more trusting of the path my life was taking, despite huge challenges. I started to love my body beyond appearance, and I felt alive. There is not one area of my life that has not been affected by this. Eventually, I trained as a yoga and meditation teacher and a sex, love and relationship coach. Self-love, self-connection and self-intimacy cannot be fully reached without a sense of embodiment. Our minds will only take us so far. What follows are some of my favourite practices to help you reconnect with your feminine energy.

These practices are nurturing, nourishing and replenishing – designed to support the nervous system and guide you to your female essence. This is an outline, so feel free to experiment. We are all unique, so if something doesn’t feel good, leave it or tweak it…



WHY? This is a beautiful practice to help you fully reconnect with your womb space. From soothing discomfort, rebuilding trust after difficult circumstances or tapping into your feminine creativity, this practice can support a range of different struggles that we all face. I use the term ‘womb space’ because even if you do not have a physical womb for various reasons, there is a powerful energy in this part of the body. It is an area that may be encompassed with shame, grief and all manner of darker emotions, so it is easy to become disconnected from it. During my own healing journey from a place of ignoring the needs of my body and punishing it relentlessly, I found this simple practice helped bring awareness to a part of me that had been forgotten.




WHY? Breast massage, used in many ancient traditions, including Taoist and Ayurdevic practices, creates a soft, loving connection with the body and opens the heart space. It is also a wonderful way to get to know your breasts intimately, which will allow you to notice any irregularities. When we are connected to our heart and allow this space to be open and expansive, we can be more loving, kind and compassionate towards ourselves and others. This practice can be performed using energy, while not touching the breasts, and can be done over clothes or on bare skin. If you are doing breast massage on bare skin, it is nourishing to use an unscented oil, such as coldpressed rapeseed, coconut or almond. If you have had a mastectomy, this practice can help build a loving connection with the breast area. If you feel sensitive in this part of your body – particularly if hormonal or breastfeeding – it is beneficial to do it without touching your skin. If you have any unhealthy breast tissue, only do the first version of this practice.




WHY? We store a lot of stuck energy in the hips and pelvis that can create a stagnancy and reduced sense of vitality. In yoga, the hips are known as the ‘junk drawer’ of our body where many emotions are held. This practice can boost sexual and sensual energy which often has a positive impact on creativity and confidence. It also eases stiffness.


“Dancing is one of the most liberating movements – but we have been told how to dance and that it must be polished, pretty and perfect.“  



WHY? Dancing is one of the most liberating movements we can make. But we have been told how to dance and that it must be polished, pretty and perfect. It is empowering to find a piece of music that activates a feeling of abandon within and let yourself dance like a wild woman. Dancing can allow you to connect with your whole body. You can stomp your feet, wave your arms and shake your hips. It can be playful or sensual, fast or tender – it allows us to express all versions of ourselves.


Lauren Barber is a self-love and intimacy coach. Follow her at @laurenbarber.co

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