Test: What’s your personal loneliness trigger?

We can all be at risk of situational loneliness during times of transition. Despite strong relationships and social connections, we can find ourselves experiencing a sense of disconnection when something unexpected comes along and disrupts the status quo. Even planned life changes can generate feelings of loneliness if they leave you feeling out of step with people you care about. Historic feelings of vulnerability from times you’ve felt lonely in the past can be stirred up by times of transition even if on a cognitive level, you know that you have the deep connections you need your life.

It’s your mind’s way of warning you that you’re wandering too far from your tribe and might be in danger. If the change you’re making in your life is one you need or can’t avoid, then you might need to simply acknowledge and make space for the emotional uncertainty until you feel settled again. Although situational loneliness is transient and will pass, it can feel hard so be sure to prioritise self-soothing and being extra kind to yourself. It’s also a time to resist overthinking, particularly ruminating about how people aren’t showing up for you or haven’t in the past. Instead, be proactive and think about who you need to connect with most right now, and how you can make that happen.