Test: What mindset will help you find a new direction?

When you’re naturally attuned to others’ needs, moods and expectations, your own life sort-out can get indefinitely side-lined. The world needs more people like you but if you’re ignoring a nagging sense that changes are overdue, it’s time to give yourself permission to put yourself top of your list.

It might mean rethinking some of the responsibilities you’ve taken on, potentially ruffling feathers in the process. It won’t feel easy if you are hyper-sensitive to disappointing or upsetting others.

But think of it as an experiment to explore how different your life might look if your dreams and aspirations had the same quality of attention and concern you give to others. Remember, even the kindest, most generous and self-less individuals are not immune to feeling resentment or frustration if they feel taken for granted.

It's time to challenge the belief that your value depends on being indispensable. If it helps, imagine how much more you could give if you were also giving to yourself, and you felt you had enough time and energy for your own personal development.

Permission to prioritise your life sort-out has to come from you, but that doesn’t have to mean doing this on your own – it’s time to allow yourself to ask for help and be supported.