Once a week? Three times a week? A few times a month? And if you’re having less than that, should you be worried? It is surprisingly easy to believe there is a correct answer. Search online and you’ll find statistics about how often couples supposedly have sex, alongside endless conversations about libido, “dead bedrooms” and […]
From children and work to exhaustion, changing bodies and shifting desire, long-term intimacy rarely stays the same. What matters isn’t matching the past — but understanding what has changed. One of the more unsettling moments in a long relationship is realising that you don’t have sex like you used to. Perhaps there was a time […]
Our sexual imagination can take us to places we’d never want to visit in real life. So why do we sometimes feel so ashamed of the things we think about? There is something strangely unsettling about discovering that your mind can take you somewhere your real-life self would never choose to go. Perhaps you’ve fantasised […]