TEST: Do you stand up for yourself?

1. During a meeting one of your colleagues says something that discredits your work unfairly in front of your boss. You:
Manage to mention in the meeting that your colleague spends a lot of time on personal calls at work...
Ask your colleague to explain to everyone how they would have done things differently
Let them carry on. They don’t mean to upset you
Scowl; inside you’re calling your colleague every name under the sun
2. You’ve been waiting at a taxi rank for 45 minutes. A taxi finally arrives but someone jumps the queue and gets in it. You:
Think about how cheeky some people can be
Hold the door open and say that you won’t move until they get out
Make a huge fuss and are prepared to physically remove them if necessary
Have murderous thoughts
3. If you don’t respond to a verbal attack it’s because:
You’re being careful
It’s the most intelligent course of action
You are weak
You lack the courage of your convictions
4. You’re on a packed commuter train and the person standing next to you has just stood on your new shoes for the sixth time. You:
Stand on their feet to get your own back
Try to get your feet out of the way
Remind them that your shoes don’t come with Anti-Shock
Think to yourself how awful it is commuting
5. In general, you are:
Highly strung
Calm
Tolerant
Suspicious
6. You’ve prepared a delicious meal for your partner, but at the last minute they cancel, saying they haven’t got time to explain why. You:
Will let them know when you see them how disappointed you were
Think it’s a shame – you could have had a really nice evening together
Wonder if they are cheating on you
Yell at them, tell them you hate them, and that you are going to invite your ex instead
7. You’re out with friends and one friend’s new boyfriend keeps interrupting when you speak. You:
Feel sorry for her having to go out with someone like him
Ask him politely if he wouldn’t mind letting you talk
Decide you can’t win, so just keep quiet till the end of the evening
Speak very loudly and give him a dirty look
8. You verbally attack people:
Frequently, but only because people provoke you
Quite often, but mostly behind their back
Very rarely, and then usually only to defend someone else
Sometimes, but only when it’s justified
9. You are on the phone to your father when he hints that you don’t phone home often enough. You:
Wonder why you’re always portrayed as the villain of piece
Know you don’t phone that often, but at least you always have lots to say
Think parents are all the same – they want you to be thinking about them all the time
Wish he would just come out and say it if he's got a problem
10. How often have you been in a physical fight?
Occasionally. It did you good
Never. It wouldn’t have helped matters
Often, but only in your imagination
Once or twice, but you’re not proud of it