Comments on: Can you learn to love anyone?

By: Sandy

Sandy — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 17:26:15 +0000

I think if we view a ‘relationship’ as a separate entity that has to be fed from both partners in equal amounts. It is more important to be with someone who wants the same things in life as you, and is passionate about creating it. It is having this shared dream that keeps people together. And I don’t necessarily mean material things. If two people meet who it is important to create a happy home where friends and family are always made to feel welcome, then the creation of this dream unites two people. If two people want to have adventures together, then this too can unite two people. As the article says, if we just go on physical attraction and don’t look deeper into the core values of our partner, then this sort of love/desire may not last.

By: Trish

Trish — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 16:57:33 +0000

I do agree with this. I went through years of going out with guys who I fancied but didn’t really have anything in common with and then ended up unhappy with, and decided deliberately to open my mind and my net! Because of this when I met my husband it was his brain and his enthusiasm for life that attracted me to him. I remember thinking he had lovely eyes, but not that he was drop dead gorgeous like one or two blokes I’d been out with. It worked, we have our ups and downs but we’ve been together happily for 10 years now and the chemistry is much stronger than it was at the start!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 14:30:37 +0000

but what if you can love someone but not fancy them – can you really love without the ‘chemistry or attraction’ ie if you don’t fancy them?

By: Nekesa

Nekesa — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 01:55:12 +0000

Possibly I’ve been programmed, or maybe I haven’t given your method a real chance; but anyone or thing I’ve tried to brainwash my self to love, I just find myself unhappy and harboring resentment towards them or it. Let’s not be soooo cynical, maybe there a couple of suitable “One’s” for each of us.

By: Shuba

Shuba — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:44:09 +0000

wow..you’re not exactly the soppy romantic type are you?
but i agree The ‘One’ is bogus, you CAN learn to love people if you like their nature, and looks.