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TOO YOUNG TO BE OLD
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  • Juleswin
    07/08/2008 11:18 am | Subject: TOO YOUNG TO BE OLD

    I am a 54 year old actress. My three children having grown to a stage where they needed me less, I returned to the profession after about 19 years of not working outside the home. Actually, I did work occasionally, singing with a function band on a weekend evening. In the last four years I have had very little work and found that because I did not build up a long CV, make contacts etc. I have little or no chance of realising my dream. But there is an underlying reason for wanting to be successful at this time of life. I have always been a rebel and even though middle aged, that has not changed. I refuse to just disappear either professionally or just as a woman.I refuse to potter about in the garden or go on cruises. NO WAY! At this time of our lives, just because we are no longer able to have children, no longer completely smooth skinned, slim or agile, it does NOT mean we are not sexy, fun loving or interesting. But I just cant rid myself of this feeling that despite being ALL those things, I have NO chance to make use of them!

  • Mandapanda13
    14/08/2008 10:06 pm | Subject:

    Hi, Let me tell you about my Grandmother. On her 80th Birthday she went on the back of my brothers' motorbike around the field with him. He was terrified she was going to fall of, she was screaming like a banshee to go faster! Why did she do it? Because she could. She died of cancer 8 years later, but no one has ever forgotten her spirt and determination, She had her own teeth her own non dyed coloured hair and all her marbles. She was cool! Your 54 not 154. Life is for living, don't waste it, if you look good, feel sexy and have a chance to fulfill your dream then do it! We only get one chance at life. If its any help my mother is 58 and I am ashamed to say she can out-party me, she has millions of mates and a great job, she has no plans to grow old so why should you. Good Luck.

  • descanning
    27/08/2008 5:14 pm | Subject:

    It sounds like there is some doubt in you, you say you want to do so much and NOT go on a cruise, but it feels like there is some seed of self-doubt, ask yourself what that could be? Maybe there are negitive people in your life who say "your off your rocker" or maybe you have been programmed by your youth, that people never make it??? How ever it is (and I may have missed the mark by a country mile) ask yourself those questions, and answer them honestly. Basically. clear the decks of self-doubt, after all it doesnt matter what the world thinks, only what you think and ultimately ending up loving what you do, therein lies the fullfillment and the joy of living. (by the way - i just noticed, I cant spell, who cares (smiles)

  • audrey
    28/08/2008 7:29 pm | Subject:

    you are right you are too young to be old. i have just had my 60th birthday and i feel the same. i have 2 children who are now in their 20s and are leading their own lives. i'm lucky that they enjoy spending some time with me and i get on with their friends ok - i'm also conscious that i shouldn't be spending too much time with them. i think when you have spent a long time bringing up a family you get out of the habit of doing things that YOU want to do. i can remember when i was your age i had days when i had some free time, for the first time for years. i found it difficult to choose for myself how i wanted to spend the time. i started setting myself little goals - practising choosing something quite minor. maybe you feel a bit like that and you need to build up the habit of doing what you want. i'm much better at it now although i don't want ever to become completely selfish. best of luck audrey

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