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Very sticky situation
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  • Anonymous
    05/08/2008 4:10 pm | Subject: Very sticky situation

    im in my early 20's, and around christmas time i fell for a guy who had a girlfriend. he cheated on her for a bit with me, then left her and practically moved in with me... but was a bit secretive, so in the end i got sick of it and dumped him. i then found out from a 3rd party that his ex was PREGNANT when he left her, which i thought was awful, but after 2 weeks of not being able to eat or sleep i got back with him, and its been great. we got our own flat and had some lovely holidays, but a few days ago the baby was born and hes gone a bit weird. im being as suportive as i can, but end of the day im only 22 and iv never dealt with this before!! it doesnt help that obviously he wants to see his baby all the time, and shes being a bit evil with saying he can go and visit then turning around saying its not convieient anymore... basically hes on tenterhooks the whole time as he wants to see the baby! not than i can blame her really for the way he treated her, but still, hes the babys dad and wants to be there. now comes the selfish bit... since the baby's been born, hes not particularly interested in our plans and parties etc.. not that i can really blame him again, but end of the day i DONT have a baby, i dont want one yet, and i DO get excited about gigs clubbing and holidays! now hes even saying hes dreading our next holiday!! so basically, i was hoping someone could give some advice cos sometimes i just want to say that other stuff is important, but i guess it isnt compared to the baby, but it is to me!!

  • sue windham
    08/08/2008 6:13 pm | Subject:

    in response to you blog i can sympathise with you, i have never been in a similar situation but have seen it unfold before me with friends. Dont forget that your life and interets are important, but at the same time maybe be patient with your boyfriend as he may need time to settle (as well as his ex) to how the baby fits into his life. Maybe as a temporary resort confide in a friend about the things that you are intereted or excited about, i think the worse thing anyone can do is put pressure on someone when their mind is clearly on other matters and may make things worse. You may find when you go on holiday that he starts to relax? Hope it all works out in the end.

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