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Can't Move On...
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  • dazedandconfused
    31/07/2008 2:36 pm | Subject: Can't Move On...

    My ex-partner and I separated just over 2 years ago and although I know it was for the best, I can't seem to move on. I wasn't sure I wanted to get married as my parents separated when I was young, but it seems that he did. We didn't really talk about it and he wouldn't talk about how he felt, he just came home one night and said it was over. We were together for 5.5 years. Four months later he was engaged to a friend he worked with. I could deal with the fact that we had separated, and like I said, I think it was for the best, but I just can't get over the fact he was engaged 4 months later. I know he must have been emotionally detaching himself from me for some time, but this whole thing came as a complete shock for me. Since that time, I have moved on with my life and have done things I have always wanted to achieve but I still can't move on. I had a relationship for 3 months, but that finished when I went travelling. I was hoping he would wait for me but he didn't. I have also had a few flings and also with someone I really, really liked but he was moving and didn't think it would work. My best friend stopped speaking to me too for some reason and no matter how much I tried, I couldn't get her to tell me why. I find it hard to make friends and to trust people and I feel that no-one wants to be with me. I'm sick of being let down by everyone I love and trust and am beginning to think there is something wrong with me. I have looked within myself and have tried to see the picture from all perspectives but can't see what the problem is. I like to spend time by myself - maybe too much but at least no-one can hurt me that way. I would really appreciate any help and advice. Thanks a lot...

  • JMP
    03/08/2008 6:31 pm | Subject:

    Moving on isn't always easy however sometimes it is possible to become stuck thus making the process of moving on even harder. My suggestion is that you seek help from a therapist to help you through this. The truth is your ex has moved on and even got married. He is obviously happy. You too deserve to be happy. Seek help, it sounds as if you're stuck.

  • sole find
    14/10/2008 8:32 pm | Subject:

    sometimes it is not moving on that is important, it is finding peace within yourself and finding that which brings fulfillment to you that makes you complete. love yourself, care for your health and your appearence, make an effort to care for yourself and invest in yourself, don't compete with your your past, if you are having relationships for short periods its good for you, our experiences are part of our groath, bring a positive energy around you, be positive & will soon find the benifits from it. good luck !!! luv will save the day zaid ally

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