Let go of perfectionism

The best hosts are relaxed and welcoming, not worried about getting things right.

‘Being too perfect or controlling can intimidate guests,’ says Kim Morgan, founder of The Coaching Circle. ‘You want them to feel comfortable, so if someone arrives late, for example, don’t mention it.’

Avoid being peacemaker

Don’t try to intervene if some of your guests argue or bicker.

‘As the host, you’ll want to diffuse uncomfortable situations,’ says Morgan, ‘but as long as no one’s being offensive, let disagreements run their course’. Adult guests are responsible for their own behaviour. Their row won’t reflect badly on you.

Ask for help

Seventy-five per cent of respondents in a poll by Time magazine said helping others was a major contributing factor to their happiness.

Asking guests for help preparing food or drinks, even if you don’t need it, makes them feel useful and valued. Anyone arriving alone will be especially grateful to have a role.

Use space to your advantage

Most people are intimidated by joining a group mid-conversation. Arrange the room so that guests can approach each other easily.

‘Face furniture towards the centre to stop exclusive groups from forming,’ advises Morgan. ‘Position yourself where it’s easy to make eye contact, and encourage guests to join you.’